Boundaries

The Clean No

To practice declining without over-explaining, apologizing, or negotiating against yourself.

What you'll need

Step 1. Name the request you want to decline.
Step 2. Write the no in one sentence. No reasons attached.
Step 3. Read it aloud. Notice the urge to soften it, and leave it as it is.
Step 4. Write what you fear will happen. Then write what you would like to protect.
Step 5. Choose when and how you will say it.

Atira's reflection

Atira's personal practice: a boundary spoken calmly is not an act of harm. Some people find it easier to practice out loud first.

Atira's original content — placeholder text pending her final wording.

Safety considerations

If naming a boundary would put you at risk of harm, your safety comes first. Reach out to a trusted person or a local support service.